Tiny Acts of Self-Love
You don’t need a fancy retreat, a $400 face serum, or a spiritual guru to connect with yourself.
Sometimes all you need is a bath, your favorite tea, and a reminder that you're sacred. All Stoic and Sh*t.
The Sage Bath (or Epsom Salt if You're Outta Sage)
This isn’t just a soak—it’s a cleanse of your energy field.
What you need:
A handful of Epsom salts (detox and muscle tension relief)
A splash of apple cider vinegar (pulls out emotional heaviness—trust)
A few dried herbs (rosemary, lavender, or even mint from your tea stash)
Optional: a few drops of essential oil (lavender or eucalyptus)
A candle and no overhead lights
Bonus: Drop a few words of affirmation into the water like a spell.
“I release what’s heavy. I call in peace.”
Playlist Therapy
Healing doesn’t always happen in silence. Sometimes it’s in the lyrics that crack you wide open, or the beat that brings you back to life.
Your self-love playlist might include:
That one sad song that lets you sob in the shower.
That absolute banger that makes you feel like a goddess.
That indie track that sounds like sunlight on your skin.
Your only rule? Feel everything. Let music move what words can’t.
Journal & Flame Release
Write it all out. The fears. The frustration. The guilt. The heartbreak. Then (safely) burn the paper in a fireproof dish or outside.
Whisper:
“I let go with love. I make space for peace.”
It’s simple. It’s ancient. It’s real.
Conscious Touch & Body Oil Ritual
After a shower, skip the towel-dry rush and turn your moisturizer into medicine.
What to do:
Use a natural oil like coconut, almond, jojoba, or even olive oil from your kitchen. (Don’t slip in the bathroom, put some slippers on.)
Massage it in slowly, lovingly, whispering thanks to each part of your body:
“Thank you, legs, for carrying me.”
“Thank you, arms, for holding so much.”
“Thank you, heart, for beating even when broken.”
This is nervous system gold. You’re telling your body: “I’m not abandoning you anymore.”
Soul Conversations
Instead of just venting on paper, try answering one of these deeper questions after your brain dump:
“What is my body trying to tell me today?”
“Where am I abandoning myself out of fear of rejection?”
“What kind of support do I wish someone would give me—and how can I give that to myself?”
You can even write a letter to yourself from the version of you that’s already healed. Let her remind you what’s possible.
Add-on: Light a candle while journaling. Play soft instrumental music. Make it feel like a date with your soul.
Wear Something That Feels Like a Hug
Forget fashion rules. Pick out clothes that feel like comfort food for your skin. The soft hoodie. The cozy socks. That T-shirt from five years ago that makes you feel safe.
This says: “Today, I’m dressing for softness, not approval.”
Make Your Bed Like You’re Tucking in Future You
Fluff the pillows. Smooth the blanket. Maybe even spritz it with lavender or a scent that feels like calm.
Clean One Tiny Area Just Because You Deserve Clarity
Not the whole house. Just your bathroom counter. Your nightstand. The space beside your couch. The closet that has been bugging you for a while. You’ll feel so much better after it. I’ve done this recently.
Do Something Creative Without a Goal
Doodle. Dance. Sing badly. Rearrange your bookshelf in rainbow order. Paint a rock. Fingerpaint with your kids.
Let it be messy and meaningless. The point is joy, not perfection.
Creativity is self-love’s playground.
Say One Loving Thing to Yourself Before Bed
Even if your day was messy. Especially if it was.
Say:
“I made it.”
“I’m proud of how I handled that.”
“Tomorrow gets a new version of me.”
Whisper it. Write it. Think it.
